I can read people pretty well, most of the time I wish I was wrong.
At a certain point in a troubled relationship, we suddenly see down the path ahead with our Ni, and know where the relationship is going. If it seems that the relationship will just be going through repetitions of the same problematic cycle, it’s like we get preemptively tired of the recurrence all at once, and just decide to shut it down, especially if we feel we’ve tried to make ourselves heard in the past to no avail. Meanwhile, the other person is confused because they didn’t just mentally experience the exhaustion of many more months or years of futile back-and-forth, so they don’t know why we’re not willing to work it out. At least, this is what I’ve experienced before any doorslams I’ve executed. You “just know” it’s not going to work, and more importantly, you are no longer willing to try.
-an INFJ on doorslamming
I don’t think anything has ever described me so well
And then there are some days I just feel defeated before the day is half way over.